Never the same again.

When we were younger, marriage and having kids were the natural steps in the circle of life. Everything happened in a natural order, with no one questioning the process. Things change over time and keep changing. Today’s conditions, business and private life equilibrium and lifestyle choices put us against harsh questions: Do we have enough room for a baby? Are we ready for such a radical change? Do we really want this? Have we ever asked ourselves why? Are we ready to compromise? Do we recognize that this is not 3-4 years of duty, but a lifetime of responsibility and nothing will be the same again?

Hard times
We mostly know what to expect in first few years of a child’s life. There are friends around us who have babies and small children who we can spend time with and have the chance to observe. But I think the hardest time comes after that. To give a child a proper education, to raise a strong and sensitive, healthy and successful individual, and do it despite negative social role models. To support a child in matters you don’t agree with, provide financial support, always keeping in mind that the child is a third being, not the same person as you or your husband. Letting the child fly while keeping a discreet hold.

Was it worth it?
When I think about the relationship I have with my mother and father, I feel that I owe the universe a child. Everything has always been great for me, I have always felt loved and supported by my family.  But I wonder, when it comes to our child, will it be enough to be as supportive and patient as my parents were with me. What if the change of our lifestyle and daily routine makes us unhappy? Is it really worth it? Is there anyone who can answer this question for me?

What  about regrets?
What if I regret it one day? If we have such a beautiful life, already happy with what it has brought us. Would we  regret not having a baby? I think we shouldn’t because we would never know what kind of feeling it is. How does it feel to be a mother? Is it simply a biological and psychological imposition for women? The only thing I know is that I would never exchange my relationship with mother for anything in the world. So, should I take on that role too?

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